BDSM AND SEXUAL ROLEPLAY Experience shows that sexual roleplay will usually involve some form of BDSM (bondage and discipline, sadism and masochism). In fact, roleplay is considered an essential component of BDSM and it typically features one person exhibiting dominance over another. In some instances, the scenarios are simple and improvised. Other fantasies, however, may require preparation, stylish costumes, safe words, various props or prearranged scripts. The idea is to pretend to be somebody you aren’t. The rules of the roleplay fantasy are entirely up to you and your companion. So get creative! Popular BDSM roleplaying costumes include: Nurse outfit Cheerleader uniform Police uniform French maid outfit Schoolgirl uniform Catwoman mask and costume Black lingerie with harness Cowboy getup Belly dancer costume Full-body latex suit Steampunk costume MASTER VS. SLAVE, TOP VS. BOTTOMS, DOMINANT VS. SUBMISSIVE At the center of every BDSM roleplaying couple is the balance of power, or in other words, the relationship between master and slave. The dominant player (also known as the “Top”) holds the power and commands the game. Conversely, the submissive players (referred to as the “Bottom”) is at the mercy and will of their master throughout the session. Luckily, the relationship status of each partner is not set in stone, and it’s possible for couples to alternate between dominant and submissive roles. To do so is called a “switch.” Switching between dominant and submissive roles means receiving pleasure from being in control and by being controlled by someone else. Most individuals who indulge in BDSM roleplaying begin by identifying as dominant or submissive. Later on, after they’ve acquired experience, they realize they’d like to try their hand at role reversal. It’s all about seeing how the other half lives, and it’s perfectly natural. After all, BDSM roleplaying exists to help us explore and express our sexuality, which evolves as we try new and interesting things. A master-slave relationship, or contract, should be negotiated between two consenting adults. It won’t happen overnight. It takes time, patience and trust to iron out the details and build the type of relationship where you can be honest and straightforward about how much power one member holds over the other and during which situations. In short, safe bdsm roleplaying requires responsibility. Only when both players feel entirely comfortable and trust each other completely can they experience the roleplaying fantasies they crave.